Mirror : rorriM

“Sketch, put your hands up like me!”

He raises his hands with a puzzled expression on his face.

I move my hands slowly.  He follows.  “Good, Robbie!  Do what I do! Follow me!”

He follows. I make a quick movement up to surprise him. He giggles.

“All done? No!” and he runs off.

But, he did it with me for a few minutes and I know he CAN do it.  I had a few minutes of uninterrupted engagement.  No small victory there!

This is one of the  hand games that I’ve been playing with Sketch.  It is similar to Patty Cake, but I call it Mirroring.

I have been playing hand games like this and Patty Cake with Sketch the past few weeks.

Games like this are great because he has to pay attention to what I’m doing;  mirror me, follow me, keep pace with me, anticipate my next move.  I put my hands up, and Sketch puts up his in the same way. I move my hand (or hands) and he is to follow as closely as he can to what I do so he is my mirror image.  It is really quite fun and there are all kinds of opportunity to throw wrenches into the game, like shooting your hand up high without notice.

Sketch likes playing it for a short time.  He thought it was funny when I’d do something unexpected and he’d have to adjust to it. He wasn’t perfect at it by a long stretch, but he tried. And in order to try, he has to remain engaged and focused.

I love it when he’s engaged and focused.  He has so much to offer: Big smiles, joyful eyes, excitement uncontainable. And, he is really, really, bright.  He does not show this to most people, but that boy is really smart.

To play these “mirroring” games, we have to be co-regulated.  Co-regulation reminds me of the Chris Tomlin song, “Where you go I go, When you move I’ll move, In this live I loose, I will follow you”  That is co-regulation in a nutshell.  It is changing your pace to meet someone else’s pace (and visa-versa).

If you are walking with someone and you are far ahead or far behind them, you have to adjust your pace to match your partners in order to being walking WITH them.  Most of us do that easily, and when we are talking and don’t get a response we’d pause and let the other person catch up.  With ASD kids, they may not notice.  They need to practice this skill to develop it.

I could use some work in that department as well.  I don’t know about you, but I find it pretty easy to not go when God says it’s time to go, especially if I’m not expecting a move.  It’s that old fear-of-the-unknown creeping up again.  It’s quite silly of me, because God promises me that he will do more than I can ever ask or imagine!  There is nothing to be afraid of in that.

At the same time, I find it far too easy to move on before He says it’s time to move on.  Knowing, and being excited for what IS coming up, but having to wait for God to give the green light, can be very difficult as well!

If only we could mirror Jesus as easily as playing a game of patty-cake.  I guess the trick is to keep going back and looking in the mirror (the Word of God) to get direction, and to follow it.

James 1:23-24 “Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.”

The other good thing about the mirror analogy, is that one day, we will look in the mirror, and we will not see just an imperfect reflection as we do now, but we will see Him.  Not in a mirror, but face to face.  I can’t wait for that day–the day of 100% engagement with Jesus.

1 Cor 12:13 “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”

How about you? Are you engaged with God? Do you find it easy or hard to be co-regulated or mirror Jesus?  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

On Wings of Eagles

I was feeling so tired and overwhelmed with everything that we did last week, everything coming up, and all that is going to happen with school starting:  IEP meetings, new teachers, new classmates, new routines to establish, etc.

And to tell you the truth, we just really have a lot to deal with these days.

“These days” started around November 2002 when the twins were born; one being extremely sensitive to everything and cried most of the first 4 months.

It seemed then, that we had “too much on our plate” as people would say to us.  Then Sketch was born and we heard that even more.  Then Dash was diagnosed with autism in 2004 (I think the extreme ADHD part didn’t need a diagnosis, it spoke for itself!)

At this point, friends we had made started to disappear. I think it was just too much for them; they didn’t know what to do, they were ovewhelmed by what they saw and so they must have decided to just not get involved; to take a step back.

Then Sketch’s medical problems (eczema, reflux, food allergies, extreme asthma) started around the age of 10 months, in 2006.  Things got harder than “too much”.

In 2007, when Sketch was 2, he was also diagnosed with autism.  His color on the spectrum was very different from Dash. Dash is more yellow: a sensory seeker-extreme boy type.  Sketch is more red: the sensory avoider-anxious type… the kind that tends to have terrible meltdowns…often.  In 2011, he was also diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety.

Our surprise baby in 2011 has been a wonderful joy, but along with her came a sudden onset of crippling aggressive Rheumatoid Arthritis for me.

I won’t even go into the many other things that could be added to the list along with these. It’s too much to type.  Too much to read.  It IS overwhelming.

On Sunday when I was standing in worship, singing the songs that had been chosen for that day, the words to Chris Tomlin’s song “Everlasting God” really struck me.  They are directly from the Scriptures:

Isaiah 40:28-31

Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the week. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

And relief poured over me as I felt my heart beat slow, muscles unclench, and a calmness settle on my shoulders. There IS ONE who will never grow tired or weary of hearing what goes on at our house; in our lives.  There is ONE who will listen over and over to my problems, to my complaints about my RA pains and symptoms.  He understands like no other; he understands completely.

Not only is He always there to pour out my heart to, but He promises to give me strength to carry on. He will make me soar on eagles wings, and run this race without growing weary.

Matt 11:29-30 says, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

 

Click here:  Everlasting God by Chris Tomlin  to listen to the song.

 

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