The Humdrum of the Once Fun

Sketch is in the basement (or “down-cellar” as they say in Maine), dressed in his favorite outfit of the one and only brand of underwear (put on backwards) that he will tolerate on his body.   He is listening to David Crowder’s DVD which has a grand total of approximately  4 songs on it.  They are absolutely fantastic songs (and I highly recommend them), however Sketch will listen to those same 4 songs all day long, over and over again, repetitively… exclusively, while he plays in the dark with trains, all day long, over and over again. That is, if I let him.

Dash is dressed in a  dark green T-shirt that says, “I do my best work while playing VIDEO GAMES!”. He is sitting at his Mac-Mini, playing his newly discovered computer game, Twizzle, over and over and over again, all day long, exclusively, repetitively, day after day…if I let him.

They both just love doing their “thing”, whatever it may be for the day, week, month. But, a couple hours into this, they will become grumpy, and they don’t realize the source of their dissatisfaction. Instead of moving on to a different activity, they will continue with the familiar.

The next day, they don’t remember the grumpy part at all.  They just recall how much fun they had when they started to play that yesterday. And so, they continue in the same pattern, day after day, over and over and over again…if I let them.

The fun, entertaining pastime transforms into a lifeless, monotonous, and tiresome activity.  An activity that they insist on continuing because it has become a part of their beloved routine.

Sometimes I have to tear them apart from their routine. They don’t realize they are grouchy because they are bored with the very thing that initially brought them so much joy. I remind them, “If it is no longer fun, then it is time to move on to something different!”

When a solution is offered, they balk at it, fighting tooth and nail while loudly wailing in defiance.  The thing they need…the cure, they refuse.

Sometimes, we behave the same way.  We find a groove, a routine we like. It works for us. Things go smoothly, for a while.  Then, over time we become unsatisfied, bored, or maybe even grumpy. Sometimes we don’t even know we are in a rut and we continue while slowly digging ourselves deeper and deeper thinking eventually we will come out on the other side, but in reality it is a very deep pit, a cavity beginning to decay.

Then, when we hear God tell us it is time to do something different, we get upset with Him because we still think we are going somewhere in our current ways.  We fight him tooth and nail…not wanting the solution that will save us, because we think we are saving ourselves. But God does not give up. He never leaves us even if we leave him.

Psalm 30: 2-3

“Oh LORD my God,  I called to you for help and you healed me.

Oh LORD, you brought me up from the grave; you spared me from going down into the pit.”

Deuteronomy 31:8

“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Are you in a rut?

Is God telling you it is time for a change?

Will you trust Him to guide you along His path?

Don’t be afraid, do not be discouraged.  God is leading you out. His plans are to give you a hope and a future!  (Jeremiah 29:11)  Just as we would not let our children to repeat the same thing over and over to a destructive end, God will not leave us either.  We show them the way out, and He shows us the way out too.  He is the perfect parent.



  1. fiona2107 said,

    August 14, 2010 at 5:13 AM

    Oh WOW!
    I stumbled across your blog on Tag surfer and I believe 100% that God led me here!
    This post spoke to me (actually it screamed at me with flashing lights and sirens) LOL!
    We have 3 children and my 2 boys are both diagnosed with aspergers and I am literally tearing my hair out with the difficulty of it all. I read in you “about” post that you felt like your son was “broken”. I SO get that!
    At the moment we are feeling like God wants us to move on in so many areas but we have been hesitant to take the first step because of fear!
    We are definitely stuck in a rut and we have kept digging ourselves deeper and deeper.
    I only prayed half an hour ago that God would show me what to do and then I find your blog!
    WOW, you have been a blessing to me and I’m so pleased I found your blog!
    Fi X

    • Merri Lewis said,

      August 14, 2010 at 12:06 PM

      Fi, I am so glad to be connected with you through this! God is soo good. I am honored that God used my blog to answer your prayers :0) You made my day with your comment!

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