And When There Is Not…

A Time For Everything

There is a time for everything, and when there is not , something must change. This is the season we are in. Interesting things happen when Newtons Law of Motion (Every action has an equal and opposite reaction) crashes into Ecclesiastes chapter 3!

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

A Time for Everything

1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

I have been in a season of “and when there’s not” a time for everything.  I have been home-schooling my 7 year old twins (Dash-with autism/ADHD, and Princess Buttercup-typically developing) for the past 2 years, due to issues with our local schools.  Now, we are entering into the time of my  youngest, Sketch(5), who also has autism, graduates from preschool (only 9 days left!)  and also will be entering into homeschooling.

There is just not enough time in a day to homeschool all three children, and get to therapies, etc.  The equal and opposite reaction to “doing to much” has resulted in many things, but especially an unmanaged house which is a constant frustration (by the way, by “unmanaged”, I don’t mean just unorganized or not picked up, but more like a tornado has hit!!!)  As positive as homeschooling my kids has been, the negative force of the pendulum has been becoming just as strong.

And so a change is required, it is time for a new season.  As this has become clear, I have been thinking about Ecclesiastes 3.

There is a time for protecting, and a time for letting go

A time to learn, and a time to act

A time to fight, and a time to accept

A time to pour in, and a time to fill up

A time for pressing in to do more, and a time to ask for help

A time to hold on tight, and a time to let go

A time for work, and a time to rest

A time to allow a mess, and a time to clean up

A time to learn at home, and a time to go to school

A time of certainty, and a time of unknowns

I am not sure what will happen in the next season.  I only know what is coming to an end.  The next few weeks will be filled with meetings with the schools to determine what the possibilities are.  In the meantime, it is a a time of faith.  Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”



  1. August 4, 2010 at 7:23 PM

    I applaud you for doing all you have for your precious children the past two years. The Lord is with you, so fear not. He can use wonderful people at school like He has for my son. May you be encompassed with peace and certainty as you hear God’s direction confirmed. And may this be a wonderful year for all of you.

  2. Merri Lewis said,

    August 4, 2010 at 7:49 PM

    Thank you so much for your words of encouragement, Kathy!

  3. Debbie said,

    August 5, 2010 at 8:12 AM

    Merri, You and Dan have done amazing things for your children!! I know the Lord will direct your next step if you seek Him. It is a hard place to be in-but when you have a conviction from Him -like you are to homeschool for instance-the Lord will make a way for it all to work out.

    Love your part of the poem that is like Ecclesiates. Homeschooling 6 children-we still do group work-like all our Bible/prayer time, and this summer all our science is together as we finish Supercharged science. Sit down and see what you can combine, what needs to be seperate(definitely math and reading) write a tenative schedule-see if the aides will be available while you work one on one for reading or the other thing is utilize Dan. He is the homeschool principal after all. Have him watch the others while you are doing one on one. Even if this means doing reading or math at night. Homeschool is about going w/ the flow of life sometimes too!!

    Praying for you sweetie-you are doing an amazing job!!

    • Merri Lewis said,

      August 5, 2010 at 11:07 AM

      Thanks Debbie. We have not had reliable–and often no–in home help. The agency we are with has not found a replacement for the lady that left so I am truly on my own most of the time. Both boys require one-to-one attention to actually DO anything, (or pay attention) so there is not much, except playing outside that they can all do together. So, unless we only homeschool and do no other things–like church, bible study, exercise, cooking, cleaning, etc. we just can’t do it.

  4. Debbie said,

    August 5, 2010 at 1:47 PM

    have you ever tried large family logistic style for your cleaning? I used this alot when I had more younger children. We all would go into the kitchen to clean it at once . I would assign duties according to difficulty. So the younger children may have wet ,soapy rags and be washing the outside of the cupboards. I would show them how to clean the entire door first and they would do it. Someone would sweep the floor, someone would wash dishes,wipe counters etc but mom was always there to supervise, watch, train and lead by example.We would all be working at the same time. No one was allowed to leave till we were finished.

    I still do this style now on Saturdays. Someone mows the yard and the rest of us weed or pick up brush, etc. Once you trained them how this style works(if it would work)you could all cook dinner together, etc. This did work for me and I had some squirmy ones-just make sure to set it up so it is safe. (I left the room for a minute the other day and my 6 yr old had sprayed hydrocortisone near/in his eye!) He was trying to see how it worked!!

  5. Laurel said,

    August 5, 2010 at 3:04 PM

    amen and amen. I needed that.

  6. Merri Lewis said,

    August 5, 2010 at 3:10 PM

    Me too, Laurel!

  7. Amy Franklin said,

    August 5, 2010 at 10:17 PM

    Merri – I hear you!!! I have thought those thoughts myself many a time…Especially as we are entering High School as we speak…The one room school teacher in the good old days wasn’t also the home maker in the same space as the classroom…It has its pros and cons …

    I commend you for knowing your limits and seeking God’s heart for the next season of your life…AMY

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